Asuming Attraction

Assuming attraction is less about self talk and affirmations and more about an internal state.

The question is this - if you are consciously telling yourself something, do you really feel as if it's true? Do you really feel it?

Correct me if i'm wrong, but I'd guess the answer is most likely no, and the old theory that if you do enough affirmations it becomes true isn't valid.

Personally I find that if I try to do affirmations on any significant time scale only one thing happens... they get boring.

And in fact the only reason why the ever work at all is through the placebo effect - you believe they are helping.

So, if you are not yet disgusted at my response that has carelessly innoculated and dismantled a placebo you have used in the past with marginal success, then read on for something even better...
Society has suffered widespread brainwashing.

We are brainwashed to believe that attraction is important and necessary.

It doesn't matter if she's attracted to you, or if she wants you, or if she wants to rape you or whatever.

IT DOESN'T MATTER.

Why? Because even if that stuff is true (and most of the time it is, read any book by Nancy Friday) she is conditioned NOT to act on it.

And because of the sheer volume of social programming, this whole thing has become a process.

In other words, her attraction to you is a state that is caused by a process which you create.

That is why we "asssume attraction."

Because there are basically 2 ways to go about it.

I could give you a list of waypoints and techniques you could use to reach those waypoints.

Or, realizing that most of those techniques are built upon the assumption that either she IS attracted to you, or that attraction doesn't matter, one of the things you can teach a person to do is assume attraction.

And the way that you do that is not through self talk but through the interpretation and misinterpretation of real life events, such that the perception is skewed in your favor.

And this requires two things:

* Lot's of practice in the real world
* Some real creativity

So let's do some examples:

Let's say you approach a woman who is seated at a table. She's sitting alone, reading a book and you approach in a relaxed manner and ask her "Is that seat available?"

Of course, unless she's waiting for a friend, she is going to answer in the affirmative in which case you proceed to sit down and continute your pick-up.

You have ASSUMED that her answer of "yes" is actually an invitation and expression of her interest in continuing to talk to you.

In other words you are not waiting for permission, or waiting for "signs" she is attracted. You assumed it.

Another example.

You begin gaming two girls in the club. You hit them with an intrigue generating line like "I see girls like you all the time in my work...".

Very quickly they will ask you "What do you do?" or "Girls like us? Like what?" At this point you lead them to a nearby couch while beginning to tell them a story that may or may not actually answer their question.

You have interpreted their question (that you generated through masterful understanding of intrigue generation and stimulus / response behaviors) as an attempt to get to know you further.

When you act on this and sit down with them on the couch, they begin to believe that which you assume.