Attitude to sex

One thing that many guys go wrong on is their attitude to sex. Sex is a basic human need, women need sex, guys need sex, everyone with pubes needs sex. This is normal but sex is not a drug. You should not crave sex (if you have not had any for a while/ever this is easier said than done).

Repressing sexual desire is to repress reality. I do not care what your religion culture or upbringing is you will never become at ease with yourself until you stop repressing your sexual desires. It is ok to want sex, it is ok to ask for sex (though to do so outright is rare). People will not stop talking to you if you do.

Think of it like a favourite food. If you do not have it for a little while you begin to want it more and more. However even when it gets to the stage you have not had it for ages you can still go without it. When you sit down for dinner and it is not the food you wanted, you are disappointed but far from heartbroken. By the same token you never would expect anyone to give you that food.

Women want sex all the time, but the more importance you attach to sex the more important you need to be to the girl to have it. If she can tell that it is not a big deal to you then she will be more likely to be relaxed about it.