Giving compliments

Compliments are the chode's most useful and ineffectual tool. This is because they do not know how to use them. The average chode will compliment a girl in an unoriginal way on something that other people also compliment her on. This kills interest and attraction in a number of ways:

• Status - Feels copliment is necessary, comunicates neediness and that she is higher status than you
• Interest - A compliment she hears a lot communicates that you are just another guy, that she will be used to brushing off. A very bad category to be in.
• Empty - There is no value to your comment you are not expressing an interest in her (eg you're beautiful, communicates not that you like her but that you think she is like the other beautiful girls)

The biggest mistake that is being made here is that the whole purpose (to make the girl feel good) is defeated because the comment is not specific enough for her to take it seriously. The easiest way to counter this is to follow it up with a reason why eg (you are looking beautiful tonight, that dress really shows off your figure). This will make any girl smile but it does not address the status issue.

The key is to compliment them and make them feel good about the things they feel insecure about. This marks you out as different and accepting. Done correctly it can even raise your status with her, as you are drawing attention to her flaws. The subcommunication is "guys don't like you because of X but I am different so I am your only option, also I am making you feel good about it so what a great option I am".

To do this you need to identify her flaws, or more correctly the flaws she is acutely aware of. Looks are the easiest to do this on, look at the way she is dressed what part of her is she trying to hide? Here are some things to look for:

• High belts or clothes loose around the hips - bum eg that top gives your hips a great shape
• Trousers looser lower down - legs eg The way your trousers hang makes your shoes look great
• Breasts squeezed together - breasts eg you are really presenting yourself well
• Loose around the waist - tummy eg makes your stomach look really flat
• Hair covering face - Your hairstyle makes your face look really cute

If the target is really high status you can turn it into a neg eg ... makes the bump of your tummy look really sexy (subcommunicaton: you're fat, no guy will like you but I am special).

Cold Reading
Looks are great but nothing compares to the power of complimenting character flaws. This shows you are really taking an interest in her and you "get" her.

Some good ones:
The way you deal with your shyness is really impressive.
You come across really strong but you shouldn't hide your vunerabitity so much, it is very endearing.
The way you use your energy to stop you feeling awkward is impressive.

Word of warning
Do not contradict her reality: if she thinks she is fat, don't bother telling her she is not (even if she really is not). Just make a comment about how well she pulls it off. If you disagree with her reality she will not believe you and so the compliment will be wasted.

So to summarise:
You have to be genuine, mean what you say. Try to commpliment on something that she is likely to feel insecure about. If possible make it a character compliment, cold reading is great for this.

You will need to compliment at somepoint in your first interaction, try to calbrate when the best time to do this is. Do not just hammer out the compliments. One or two are justified, any more and you look needy.