Giving value

Inner game is all about value. A lack of confidence or belief in one's self tends to mean you seek value from other people. It is a bit of an esoteric concept but it is what really underpins all inner game. Some people use energy to describe the same concept.

You should try to always give people value. Doing this will increase your value as a person. This will attract people to you in every sense of the word. You will be more successful in every area of life that involves other people and it will make you happier generally.

If you are still reading this then this has probably either not occured to you or you do not properly understand the concept. The only way to imporve this is to ask yourself a question every time you do anything. Is what I am doing at the minute providing value or am I taking the value from something else?

Here are some tips:

• Avoid insults - You are taking value from the person you are insulting
• Avoid complaining - This is effectively insulting your situation, taking value from all those around you
• Avoid negative thoughts about people in general - Difficult but try to see things from the other persons point of view. Negativity sucks value.
• Accept people - Some people are insecure, some people hate themselves, not many people are actually bad, mean or nasty. Sympathy is value giving emotional state, better yet accept and see past it.
• Be interested in people - Some people are boring, you can counteract this by asking yourself (and them) questions about what it is about x or y that interests them
• Be open to new ideas and experiences - Say "yes" more, you can't provide any value sitting at home.
• Give people the opportunity to shine - This gives them the opportunity to demonstrate value to you. The best way to give value.
• Entertain people - Making other people happy is a great way to give value

Be a value giver not a value taker.