Listen to Women - Just don't take what they say at face value

I have been given plenty of advice in my chode days about getting a girlfriend (NB not actually getting women in general). When I first got into pickup I decided it was all rubbish, but as my game matures it is all coming together. You just have to realise exactly how to take the advice.

Whilst women tend to know more or less what they look for in a man, most tend fail to realise certain key points:

1. How hard it is for a guy to actually take what he wants
2. How petrified most of us actually are of women
3. How twisted our ideas are of what women actually want
   
4. How the concept of status works in attraction
5. What actually makes them attractive.
6. Why a particular aspect or feature is a good thing

1
Often women deny themselves a lot society has put restrictions on what is acceptable for them to do and what is not. A lot of girls think it is bad to sleep with a guy on the first date, even if they want to. They think that one night stands are slutty. They do these things but they tend to feel guilty about it. There are rules and no go areas for women, they know them and most of the time men don't. All those magazines, the girly chats, this is where they discuss what they can do and what they can't. That said the rules are not a secret and women will share them with you. Listen and listen good, then figure out what it means for you, then you know when you come accross it.
eg Many women will not kiss on the first date (probably shouldn't be dating anyway), spike her romance vibes, some situations need a kiss (sunset etc).

2
Most girls hardly ever approach guys. They often make the first move but the moves they make are subtle and easy to miss. Most women (especially the hot ones) do not really understand the fear of rejection that we feel. They have the attitude "It has happened to me before so why can't everyone do it?". Understand that women expect you to take the risks. How can you make them feel secure if they are taking all these risks the whole time? Also understand that women refer to guys in the same way we refer to chicks. The attraction is implicit. Do you want to meet chicks? It implies hot chicks.

3
Women do not seem to understand that the more they try to live up to the repressive and stereotypical good girl images that society puts on them, the more the uneduacated think the way to treat a woman is like you would treat something fragile. "Women don't like rock climbing they like being taken out for dinner and the theater". Make sure you understand that women are a lot like men in most respects: they like sex (a lot) and like doing exciting things.

4
Women will always say yu should treat them like princesses. If you have read anything else about pickup you know this is a bad way to think. It's fine to treat women princesses only if you are the king, or better yet the emporer. Listen to what they like but make sure you keep your status.

5
When women discuss guys they assume they are attractive. You will rarely get a woman to tell you what makes you attractive. They rarely know and understand even less. Learn the attraction part of your game elsewhere. They will probably tell you to do your hair and all that crap, dress yourself make sure you look cool and get some flair.

6
All women think they have a type, this is bullshit. You know that otherwise none of this would work. See 5.


With all that in mind most women will tell you 2 things:

• Be confident
• Be yourself

2 of the hardest things to do in life, figure out what this means and get them sorted.

Listen to women, apply what they say to what you know. It will help.