Men are superior to women

Men are superior to women, it's not up for debate, it is a fact. The reasons are twofold:

• Women have inferior physical characteristics
• Women have been repressed by society for eons

Women have inferior physical characteristics
Physical development, having to bleed every month, having a body clock which means their reproductive organs stop working halfway through tier lives, hormones going nuts the whole time. Being a woman is HARD. Give them a break.

Women have been repressed by society for eons
Largely due to the physical characteristics and the stronger male sex drive women have been under the thumb of male society since day dot. Men do not generally have to worry much about rape. Indeed women are deemed to be sluts if they even get close to overtly displaying their inherent sexuality the way men do. In many societies the emotional and physical repression of women is so extreme that it would be against the law in most modern western societies.

This realisation helped me move on with my inner game. Being able to feel superior to women but to maintain the same level (sometimes more, triumph over adversity and all that) or respect, helped me feel more secure without sucking value from the women I talk to.

Overall you should feel like men are better than women, it is generally true. That does not mean however that you should underestimate women in any way. More often than not they can compete on a level footing with men in all but the most physical and competitive environments. I do semi-contact kick boxing. generally speaking the women who comprise 60% of the school are better than the guys. They place less importance on the outcome and are generally more skill full, not to mention quicker and more flexible. The only edge men have is an extra bit of competitiveness.

Don't put women on a pedestal, most of the time you are going to be a happier more valuable balanced person than them. That said it is your job to help them lift themselves from the difficulties life has thrown them. A leader's responsibility is not to himself but to those he leads.

Women have it hard, cut them some slack.

Dealing with drama

In any relationship there are bound to be arguments. If anyone tries to tell me otherwise they are either lying or have not had a relationship with anyone. With women they can be much more frequent. One thing to always bear in mind when dealing with this is to remember that you do not get annoyed with people or situations you do not value. If a woman is fighting with you over some minor detail (as most arguments are) then it is a sign that you are important to her.

Many guys view women as a little bit unstable and this is not too far from the truth. The hormones and general make up of a woman mean that their emotions and emotional states are generally stronger than that of men. Add to this the fact that women have been penned into living up to many impossible stereotypes and it is easy to see why women tend to be more insecure than men.

(interesting observation of the hormonal effect http://www.newscientist.com/blog/lastword/2008/10/its-his-hormones.html#nbicomments 2nd comment from bottom)

Ok so women are more unstable than men, this means it is your job as a man to provide stability. You have to be the emotional rock that she can cling onto. That is not to say that you cannot be annoyed, but you know when an issue is extremely minor. If it does not matter concede the point (your "principles" are bullshit principles. not killing people is a priciple, not conceding a point is being a dick). Stay level and logical, if you have points to make then make them, and do not get drawn off onto other (even similar) issues. Basically, listen to her and ignore the drama aspect. If it is really petty, or something you cannot control, ignore it totally, treat her as you normally would and do your best not to be short or irritated with her.

Most women hate doing this, and hate doing it to people they value. Sometimes you have to give her a little space, once you know what she thinks she is angry about, say something to reassure her, concede a point or 2 so she does not feel like she is rolling over backwards for you, then walk away. It may take 5 mins it may take a couple days.

All this feels a little draining, you are giving a LOT of value doing this. Try to remember that you are the man and it is your job, believe me it helps. Also try to remember that to a large degree she will not be able to control herself. Try not to hold it against her. When she does conced a point or feel guilty for having the drama in the first place, reward her, this is a very noble thing for her to do and probably took a lot of effort.

There is a reason people say "be the bigger man" and not "be the bigger woman".

Giving value

Inner game is all about value. A lack of confidence or belief in one's self tends to mean you seek value from other people. It is a bit of an esoteric concept but it is what really underpins all inner game. Some people use energy to describe the same concept.

You should try to always give people value. Doing this will increase your value as a person. This will attract people to you in every sense of the word. You will be more successful in every area of life that involves other people and it will make you happier generally.

If you are still reading this then this has probably either not occured to you or you do not properly understand the concept. The only way to imporve this is to ask yourself a question every time you do anything. Is what I am doing at the minute providing value or am I taking the value from something else?

Here are some tips:

• Avoid insults - You are taking value from the person you are insulting
• Avoid complaining - This is effectively insulting your situation, taking value from all those around you
• Avoid negative thoughts about people in general - Difficult but try to see things from the other persons point of view. Negativity sucks value.
• Accept people - Some people are insecure, some people hate themselves, not many people are actually bad, mean or nasty. Sympathy is value giving emotional state, better yet accept and see past it.
• Be interested in people - Some people are boring, you can counteract this by asking yourself (and them) questions about what it is about x or y that interests them
• Be open to new ideas and experiences - Say "yes" more, you can't provide any value sitting at home.
• Give people the opportunity to shine - This gives them the opportunity to demonstrate value to you. The best way to give value.
• Entertain people - Making other people happy is a great way to give value

Be a value giver not a value taker.

Listen to Women - Just don't take what they say at face value

I have been given plenty of advice in my chode days about getting a girlfriend (NB not actually getting women in general). When I first got into pickup I decided it was all rubbish, but as my game matures it is all coming together. You just have to realise exactly how to take the advice.

Whilst women tend to know more or less what they look for in a man, most tend fail to realise certain key points:

1. How hard it is for a guy to actually take what he wants
2. How petrified most of us actually are of women
3. How twisted our ideas are of what women actually want
   
4. How the concept of status works in attraction
5. What actually makes them attractive.
6. Why a particular aspect or feature is a good thing

1
Often women deny themselves a lot society has put restrictions on what is acceptable for them to do and what is not. A lot of girls think it is bad to sleep with a guy on the first date, even if they want to. They think that one night stands are slutty. They do these things but they tend to feel guilty about it. There are rules and no go areas for women, they know them and most of the time men don't. All those magazines, the girly chats, this is where they discuss what they can do and what they can't. That said the rules are not a secret and women will share them with you. Listen and listen good, then figure out what it means for you, then you know when you come accross it.
eg Many women will not kiss on the first date (probably shouldn't be dating anyway), spike her romance vibes, some situations need a kiss (sunset etc).

2
Most girls hardly ever approach guys. They often make the first move but the moves they make are subtle and easy to miss. Most women (especially the hot ones) do not really understand the fear of rejection that we feel. They have the attitude "It has happened to me before so why can't everyone do it?". Understand that women expect you to take the risks. How can you make them feel secure if they are taking all these risks the whole time? Also understand that women refer to guys in the same way we refer to chicks. The attraction is implicit. Do you want to meet chicks? It implies hot chicks.

3
Women do not seem to understand that the more they try to live up to the repressive and stereotypical good girl images that society puts on them, the more the uneduacated think the way to treat a woman is like you would treat something fragile. "Women don't like rock climbing they like being taken out for dinner and the theater". Make sure you understand that women are a lot like men in most respects: they like sex (a lot) and like doing exciting things.

4
Women will always say yu should treat them like princesses. If you have read anything else about pickup you know this is a bad way to think. It's fine to treat women princesses only if you are the king, or better yet the emporer. Listen to what they like but make sure you keep your status.

5
When women discuss guys they assume they are attractive. You will rarely get a woman to tell you what makes you attractive. They rarely know and understand even less. Learn the attraction part of your game elsewhere. They will probably tell you to do your hair and all that crap, dress yourself make sure you look cool and get some flair.

6
All women think they have a type, this is bullshit. You know that otherwise none of this would work. See 5.


With all that in mind most women will tell you 2 things:

• Be confident
• Be yourself

2 of the hardest things to do in life, figure out what this means and get them sorted.

Listen to women, apply what they say to what you know. It will help.

How true...how true

This never ever happened to me, not even once....because I was always so cool....I mean girls have always been easy for me....but you probably already knew that...just thought I would say..............shit

Attitude to sex

One thing that many guys go wrong on is their attitude to sex. Sex is a basic human need, women need sex, guys need sex, everyone with pubes needs sex. This is normal but sex is not a drug. You should not crave sex (if you have not had any for a while/ever this is easier said than done).

Repressing sexual desire is to repress reality. I do not care what your religion culture or upbringing is you will never become at ease with yourself until you stop repressing your sexual desires. It is ok to want sex, it is ok to ask for sex (though to do so outright is rare). People will not stop talking to you if you do.

Think of it like a favourite food. If you do not have it for a little while you begin to want it more and more. However even when it gets to the stage you have not had it for ages you can still go without it. When you sit down for dinner and it is not the food you wanted, you are disappointed but far from heartbroken. By the same token you never would expect anyone to give you that food.

Women want sex all the time, but the more importance you attach to sex the more important you need to be to the girl to have it. If she can tell that it is not a big deal to you then she will be more likely to be relaxed about it.

Giving compliments

Compliments are the chode's most useful and ineffectual tool. This is because they do not know how to use them. The average chode will compliment a girl in an unoriginal way on something that other people also compliment her on. This kills interest and attraction in a number of ways:

• Status - Feels copliment is necessary, comunicates neediness and that she is higher status than you
• Interest - A compliment she hears a lot communicates that you are just another guy, that she will be used to brushing off. A very bad category to be in.
• Empty - There is no value to your comment you are not expressing an interest in her (eg you're beautiful, communicates not that you like her but that you think she is like the other beautiful girls)

The biggest mistake that is being made here is that the whole purpose (to make the girl feel good) is defeated because the comment is not specific enough for her to take it seriously. The easiest way to counter this is to follow it up with a reason why eg (you are looking beautiful tonight, that dress really shows off your figure). This will make any girl smile but it does not address the status issue.

The key is to compliment them and make them feel good about the things they feel insecure about. This marks you out as different and accepting. Done correctly it can even raise your status with her, as you are drawing attention to her flaws. The subcommunication is "guys don't like you because of X but I am different so I am your only option, also I am making you feel good about it so what a great option I am".

To do this you need to identify her flaws, or more correctly the flaws she is acutely aware of. Looks are the easiest to do this on, look at the way she is dressed what part of her is she trying to hide? Here are some things to look for:

• High belts or clothes loose around the hips - bum eg that top gives your hips a great shape
• Trousers looser lower down - legs eg The way your trousers hang makes your shoes look great
• Breasts squeezed together - breasts eg you are really presenting yourself well
• Loose around the waist - tummy eg makes your stomach look really flat
• Hair covering face - Your hairstyle makes your face look really cute

If the target is really high status you can turn it into a neg eg ... makes the bump of your tummy look really sexy (subcommunicaton: you're fat, no guy will like you but I am special).

Cold Reading
Looks are great but nothing compares to the power of complimenting character flaws. This shows you are really taking an interest in her and you "get" her.

Some good ones:
The way you deal with your shyness is really impressive.
You come across really strong but you shouldn't hide your vunerabitity so much, it is very endearing.
The way you use your energy to stop you feeling awkward is impressive.

Word of warning
Do not contradict her reality: if she thinks she is fat, don't bother telling her she is not (even if she really is not). Just make a comment about how well she pulls it off. If you disagree with her reality she will not believe you and so the compliment will be wasted.

So to summarise:
You have to be genuine, mean what you say. Try to commpliment on something that she is likely to feel insecure about. If possible make it a character compliment, cold reading is great for this.

You will need to compliment at somepoint in your first interaction, try to calbrate when the best time to do this is. Do not just hammer out the compliments. One or two are justified, any more and you look needy.